I went to Joshua Tree to have a love affair with myself. I went to re-connect with my own self-love. I was in California for work and needed to stay the weekend anyway so thought of ways to completely fall in love with myself again. I invited a girlfriend and she wanted to come (and I love her dearly) but I decided to un-invite her when I recognized that I wanted my time there to be with me and myself. I wanted to be alone with my thoughts, emotions, and do everything I wanted to do. And do it completely sober and immersed in nature.
Happy Valentine’s Day! Who do you love the most?
You should already know my answer, myself. And I hope you’d answer the same. Why? Because I don’t believe it means you’re self centered or absorbed if you answer this question that way. What I believe is that if you love yourself the most, then you’re going to show up 1000% percent to the world. And if you show up 1000% percent to the world, then you’re doing everyone a favor. We need more people like that. We need people who love themselves, their strengths, their gifts, and who know their weaknesses and love them too. We need more people who are passionate about what they, as individuals, can contribute to the world. People who put themselves first are successful people. People who put themselves first have so much more love to share with everyone else.
Joshua Tree was incredible. I can strongly say that I have never been to any place in the world like this before, and also, it’s looks and feels unlike any other place in the US. It’s a desert with massive boulder formations and crazy trees that look like they are straight out of Dr. Seuss. It’s magical. The first day I hiked/jogged 7 miles and meditated on a huge boulder. The second day, I hiked 15 miles including climbed an entire mountain. For several days, I camped out under the stars all by myself with no alcohol, drugs, or cell service. I don’t know many people who can do that, even if they had the desire to do so. The camps near me were all drunk.
One major problem in unhealthy people is the lack of self-love. Those people go through emotional situations and they end up demolishing themselves for how they felt during that time or how they reacted, and then they completely shut down. The cycle becomes perpetual and overbearing until the person gets self medicated with alcohol, recreational drugs, or prescribed medication from physicians.
If only people could see more clearly when it comes to this…
It starts and ends with you and how much you love and care about yourself. How often do you have self-doubt? How often do you dislike something about yourself or something you did or said? Self-deprecating behavior makes a nice cozy home in our lives and this starts to actually diminish our self-worth.
The first step is recognizing when you’re putting yourself down. This can be a really hard step for a lot of people, especially those Type A Go Getters. The second step is to rescind that thought and replace it with true love. Replace it with something you have always loved about yourself, something you’re grateful for, or something you forgive yourself for. Once you stop demolishing yourself, you start growing. Once you start growing, you can actually become exactly what you have always imagined yourself being.
Loving yourself is deep stuff and only you can do it. I recommend a ‘self love affair’ journey someday. It’s liberating and it will always come back to you 10 fold.
You’re worth it :)