Integrity: the quality of being honest, moral, and whole/undivided
It's remarkable to me how many people lack integrity. It wasn't until I started looking at my own that I had this awareness. I realized then that I would devote myself for the rest of my life to make it my priority to have integrity.
Integrity is something you can actually witness upon meeting someone. And if it's not there upon initial meeting, it's likely never going to show up unless the person goes through recovery and transformation.
One of my brothers is a man of great integrity. He's always had it. He's honest and undivided about his beliefs that are impeccably moral. He's a marine and a firefighter. He was born this way. There is no denying that.
When I meet people in business, integrity is the first thing I look for. Why? Because if the person is not honest, moral, and undivided, why would I want to do business with that person? It's unwise and potentially detrimental.
Once I started looking for integrity in the people around me, I recognized that people really struggle to have this quality. I believe the main reason for this is because they lie to themselves out of fears and insecurities. And when someone is lying to themselves, they inevitably are lying to everyone else.
Integrity is something you can obtain. It takes practice, but it's achievable if you make it a priority. It starts with the practice of being honest with yourself every second of every day. This means honesty with every thought and action. It means paying attention to details and understanding why you do what you do.
It evolves into the practice of being honest with your friends and family every second of every day. And it grows into the consistency of being honest and moral with every person you interact with including complete strangers during every second of every day.
It means doing the right thing in every single situation. The right thing isn't always the easiest or fastest. It's not always easy because a lot of times we are reactive to situations, rather than thoughtfully responsive. Being thoughtfully responsive includes having patience.
It means living truthfully, regardless of fear and insecurities. It means being whole in every aspect of your life and not letting people or things deteriorate your morale. It means standing up and living for what you believe is the highest and best for everyone, including yourself.
Integrity is a beautiful quality. It makes me wonder why people don't wish for this quality more often. Is it because they are unaware they can have it? Or is that that think they already are?
I challenge you to ask yourself if you have integrity and then ask yourself what percent of the time do you display this quality.
It's okay if you're out of practice, you're not alone. Start to recognize the lack of integrity in people you meet and be willing to make changes to your own character. There's more than enough time to start and make a difference in your life.
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